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-------------- Received this urgent Job advertisment in my mail. Anyone insterested?? feel freeworkplace
office is getting more bright as not the fluorescent light keep changing to lighten up the workplace but is getting lively, active, bouncy and cheerful enjoyable haha
with the ladies around, working could be fun...
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24hrs and 17 mins more to Childrens' Day
Am i still in the children categories haha
To be contiune~
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One in every twenty people is considered to be a highly sensitive person (HSP). This means that either you yourself may be sensitive or someone you know is. 42% of the population is not highly sensitive, meaning that most things don't bother them the way they will an HSP. Everyone else falls somewhere in between, with the odd few being completely unemotional about anything. (By the way 20% of the entire animal kingdom is highly-sensitive as well).
We're the thinkers, the cautious ones, the conservative people; the ones that say "Hey, wait a minute. Let's think this through before doing something rash."
Every society needs highly sensitive people, just as we need the warriors, the leaders who are ready to take the risks. However, we're the ones that help to temper the not-so-sensitive types, the ones who can be bold, rash and impulsive and may have not thought things through to the consequences of their actions. Highly sensitive people are most often the people found in the roles of advisors, counselors and advocators for restraint.
Unfortunately, in western society, we've also been labeled as somewhat "defective", according the way non-hsp's see us. We're considered "too sensitive, too cautious, too shy, too timid, too introverted, too fearful." What needs to be realized is that these are not "problems" that need to be corrected and fixed with sensitive people. It's the labels that are attached to us that cause the problems. Many non-sensitive people are also shy, timid, introverted and fearful, while there are many highly sensitive people who are out-going, super-friendly, extroverted, and risk-takers. We just tend to think things through first and weigh all the factors that our senses pick up on before forging ahead.
So, what are some of the traits and characteristics of a highly sensitive person? Let's look at some of the facts and the mythical labels that have been attached to this special group.
Shyness - You'll probably find a larger portion of shy people in the HSP group. That does not mean that everyone is shy. That's a myth. A lot of non-sensitive people are also shy. Sometimes, what's mistaken as shyness is actually a sizing up of the situation and the people that we have just met. We're cautious. If our senses are saying something isn't right about the person, we won't be so open to them. First impressions count. It's not just the way the person is dressed, but their whole demeanor, aura, attitude and other little subtleties that we absorb with all of our senses. We process the thoughts, feelings and sensations that we receive in each new situation. This may make some of us appear "shy", when we're not.
Introverted - Somewhat of a myth. You'll find many HSP's can be extroverted, out-going and fun-loving. You'll also find many non-sensitive people as being introverted. Don't mistake deep-thinking and inner-reflection as introversion. We do require much more alone time. This is because our nervous systems can go into over-load in a situation that a non-sensitive person would find somewhat stimulating. If we become frazzled and over-stimulated, we need to find a quiet spot as soon as possible to settle back down. This is why many HSP's tend to stay at home more often than not, rather than go out to party. It's not that we don't want to... we just know our systems can't handle the overload for too long a time. If we can't get away, we'll pull into ourselves, as a sort of protective shield, to try to reduce the noise, sights, sounds and smells that are bombarding us in order to calm down.
Fearfulness - Unless you're completely unemotional and have a lack of conscious consideration toward others, who can say that they've never been fearful at times? This is not an exclusive trait of sensitive people. New experiences often cause butterflies, fearful thoughts and inner-turmoil in most people. HSP's just tend to feel those emotions more deeply.
Timidness - Caution, careful evaluation of the situation, needing the see the "entire picture", and the possible resulting consequences of our actions is just in our nature. If everyone heedlessly rushed into everything, we'd have even more chaos in our world than we do now.
Too-Sensitive - Yes, this is our major trait. We assimilate everything around us at once. Lights, noises, smells, energy vibrations, they all get absorbed, processed and evaluated. Unfortunately when there's too much activity and noise around us, we can't handle it for a great length of time. For example, what may be a low to moderate level of music for a non-sensitive person could sound like the level of a rock concert to us. Emotionally, we're affected by much of the disharmony in the world. We feel another person's heartache, we are aware of low levels of anger or resentment in a room, we empathize with other people's problems, and feel great sorrow over horrific tragedies.
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A highly sensitive person will pick up on subtleties in the surroundings that many non-sensitive people can't see or feel. This can give us some great advantages. It can save us in many situations where there's trouble brewing. Our abilities can keep us from making disastrous business or personal decisions, if we follow our instincts. And because of our deep sense of the environment around us, we're often the ones that make others aware of potential environmental problems that unscrupulous companies ignore for their own benefits. HSP's are often the ones that push for reforms and changes in government law for the better good of everyone.
As with anything, it's good to know that you're not alone, that there are others out there that have to deal with the same types of situations and "labels" as you do. True, it doesn't hurt any less, but you know there are similar types that you can seek out and talk to...and they'll understand. Yes, we do tend to exhibit more of the above traits and characterisitcs than non-sensitive people do, but we're not exclusive owners of them either. Sometimes, it's a misinterpetation of what's really going on in the mind of an HSP by non-HSP's. Only another highly sensitive person could really understand. The good news is that highly sensitive people have been around for as long as man has walked the earth... and we'll always be here, working to make the world a more understanding, considerate and peaceful haven for everyone.
Winners verses Losers
The winner is always part of Anwers;
The losers is always part of problem:
The winner has a programm;
The loser has a excuse:
The winner says, "let me do it for you";
The loser says, "that is not my job":
The winner sees an answer for every problem;
The loser sees a problem for every answer:
When a winner says, "It may be difficult but it is
possible";
When a loser says, "It may be possible but it is too
difficult":
When a winner makes a mistake, he says 'I was wrong';
When a loser makes a mistake, he says, 'It wasn't my
faut':
A winner makes Commitments;
A loser makes Promises:
Winner have dreams;
Loser have schems:
Winner says, 'I must do something';
Loser says, 'something must be done':
Winner are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team:
Winner see the gain;
Loser see the pain:
Winners see possibilities;
Losers see problems:
Winners believe in win/win;
Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose:
Winners see the potential;
Losers see the past:
Winners are like a thermostat;
Losers are like a thermometer:
Winners choose wat they say;
Losers say what they choose:
Winners use hard argument but softwords;
Losers uses soft argument but hard words:
winner stand firm on values but compromise on petty
things;
Loser stand firm on petty things but compromise on
value:
Winners follow the philosophy of empathi; " dont do to
others wat do you would not want them to do to you";
Losers follows the philosophy of empathi; ' do it to
others before they do it to you":
Winner make it happen;
Loser let it happen:
Winners plan and prepare to win;
Loser plans to win:
The keyword is preparation
What do women really want?
Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a
neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by
Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long
as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year
to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he
would be put to death.
The question was: What do women really want?
Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to
young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than
death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.
He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the
priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with
everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.
Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would
have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous
throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.
The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to
the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to
her price first.. The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble
of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur's closest friend!
Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only
one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never
encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life.
He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible
burden, but Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He
said nothing was too big a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life and the
preservation of the Round Table.
Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question
thus: "What a woman really wants," she said, "is to be in charge of her
own life." Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered
a great truth and that Arthur's life would be spared.
And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and
Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.
The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a
horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most
beautiful woman he had ever seen, lay before him on the bed. The
astounded Lancelot asked what had happened.
The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she
appeared as a witch, she would henceforth be her horrible deformed self only half
the time and the beautiful maiden the other half.
"Which would you prefer? she asked him. "Beau tiful during the day ...
or at night?"
Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day he could have a
beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his
castle, an old witch! Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during
the day, but by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous, intimate
moments with?
(If you are a man reading this ...) What would YOUR choice be?
(If you are a woman reading this ..) What would YOUR MAN'S choice be?
What Lancelot chose is below. BUT ... make YOUR choice before you
scroll down below. OKAY?
Noble Lancelot, knowing the answer the witch gave Arthur to his
question, said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.
Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the
time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own
life.Now ... what is the moral to this story?
The moral is ..
If you don't let a woman have her own way, things are going to get ugly.
what a night~
surf net
cant sleep
blogging
reading e-book
trying to get familiar with window vista
chating in MSN
to be contiuned~
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Is it good to be sensitive?
What is Sensitive?
Am I too-sensitive?
